PP 313: A Message for the Singletons

Kim Sutton Today’s episode is twofold. First off, on the day of the episode release, my husband and I are celebrating our six year wedding anniversary. So in the spirit of that, I wanted to– Well, I guess number one, say Happy Anniversary to my husband. And number two, give hope to all of the single listeners who are wondering if they’re ever going to find that one person. In late 2010, I was married to my high school sweetheart. And I knew that the relationship was not good for me or my children. We were fighting all the time and we seem to do everything we possibly could to make each other miserable. I was in the midst of running my first business which was not going well at all. And on one particular night, I was sitting in my office and decided to watch the Bucket List. If you haven’t seen it before, it stars Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson, who meet in the hospital and decide that in what could possibly be the last month of their lives to fulfill the items on their bucket list. After watching the movie, I was inspired to make a soul mate spec sheet. I decided that if I was ever going to date or marry somebody ever again, that that person needed to qualify, I suppose would be the best way of saying it, by meeting a number of items on my list. Now to be totally honest, I was looking for somebody who would meet all of them but considering there were 50 to 60 items on the list, I would be surprised if anybody out there actually met all of them in the three that my husband did not meet. Looking back, I really didn’t need them. Well, just a short three weeks after writing that list, I was on Craigslist looking for furniture for the apartment that I had secured. And I decided to click on the men looking for women section. I was not looking for a man, I had no intention of dating anybody for years. But I actually wanted to see what jerks were out there looking for women. That’s not the word I normally use but I don’t want to mark this episode as explicit. Perusing through the various ads, I got a few laughs in just moments of disgust that people were actually posting what they were. But then I found my husband’s post, it immediately got me. And I sent him a message letting him know that if he were still single in six months, that I wanted him to post the message again. You know, I’m very transparent on the positive productivity podcast. So I do have to share that I had not left my ex at that point. I was not sleeping in my bed anymore. I was sleeping on the couch, or to be totally honest spending some of the nights in my office, which is in the downtown area of the village that we live in. It was not a safe relationship emotionally for me or physically for my boys so I knew we had to get out. I just hadn’t had the means to do so up until that point. I know that you could be shaking your head and thinking that I’m a horrible person. But two days after I sent that message, my husband Dave and I met. We can’t always plan out the wonderful things that happen in our life. But by writing bucket lists and soulmate spec sheets, we can set ourself up to manifest and meet the opportunity or person of our dreams. So today, I want to encourage you to not be frustrated by your single dumb. Know that your person is out there and go write your soulmate spec sheet. So much has happened in the nearly eight years since I met my husband. We’ve gotten married. I’ve started my business, we’ve added three more children to our family. And although we do have some rough days, I wouldn’t trade any of it for the world. Your one person is out there. Give yourself a break, write down your list, and let them find you. Now with all this said, go forth and make it a positive and productive day.