PP 079: Asking for Help
Asking for help doesn’t show weakness, but rather shows strength in knowing how our energy and time are better spent. In this episode, I share some of my own personal and professional examples of how asking for help has benefited me.
Welcome back to another episode of positive productivity. Today I’m going to talk about asking for help. I don’t know if you can relate with me on this. However I remember as a young girl and as a teenager and even through college and as a young adult I felt it was a weakness to ask for help whenever I couldn’t quite do something by myself. I would continue trying to push forward often spending way more time than I should have just because I didn’t want anybody to know that I was unsuccessfully doing something alone. OK let me be totally honest. I still struggle with this little bit. Even up until last fall, maybe I should even say yesterday, but the most obvious memory from most recent days is even just asking for help and getting my podcast graphics and editing and all of the activities associated with getting this podcast off the ground and continuing on a daily basis. I was trying to do it alone. To say I was struggling would be probably an understatement. And if you’ve been listening for a while you may have realized that in December I only had one episode released. Now you can go back and listen to one of the previous episodes talking about how the podcast burnt me out. However the big lesson that I’m trying to share in this episode is asking for help does not make us weak. In fact it makes us a lot stronger.
Since I started my businesses in 2012 I have gone through a shift in looking at other people who are doing the same type of jobs as I am as competition to looking at them as collaborators acquaintances and referral partners. To use one specific example, a classmate that I met when I went through my Infusionsoft Certified Partner training is now somebody who I am doing work for and I know if I had an opportunity for her I would send it back to her as well. While we are both Infusionsoft certified partners there is no need to compete. However if one of us sees that we could use help in an expertise that the other one has we’ll reach out and in the end it works better for us and our clients. As a mom of five I am often amused watching my children trying to do things on their own. Probably every single day my 3 year old daughter Navaeh will want to do something like brushing her hair brushing her teeth getting dressed even pouring herself milk out of the gallon container. There are so many of these things that she really has learned to do on her own but I enjoy watching her celebrating her victories when she does accomplish these feats and warmly embracing her request for help when she does realize that she cant do it on her own. As parents, as friends, as loved ones, chances are none of us would say “haha I told you so” after watching somebody struggle. If you are a person who would say “haha I told you so” I just want you to think about how that may make the other person feel. But when somebody comes to you asking for help and thats something that you can easily do or if the tables are turned and you go to somebody else asking for help.
Again its not making you appear weak. In my opinion asking for help helps position you as an expert in the areas that you are knowledgeable and very capable in. And asking for help doesn’t even need to be limited to business activities. Thinking about everything that goes around in my house every day there are a variety of ways that I have asked for help and I’m now getting it. For example my older children are doing chores, that helps me. It’s not that I’m incapable of doing the laundry or doing the dishes. It’s that there are better uses of my time and to be quite honest, my children want allowance. So in a way it is helping us both out. By letting go of the activities we are not most proficient in and asking for help with those activities. We are freeing up our space and our time and our imagination for so many other activities which could be helping us serve our bigger purpose. The next time you’re struggling with anything whether it be personal or professional, don’t be afraid to reach out to a friend or colleague or loved one. On a more personal note, I want to especially stress that if you are struggling emotionally then to build a network of people who you know you can go to for help when you are struggling. In early to mid 2016 I was struggling with major anxiety and depression but I had a network of people around me, especially a dear friend and my husband who I could confide in and they gave me the advice and the resources that I needed to pull through.
We always need to be actively building our network of support. People who can support us emotionally, relationship wise, and professionally. But while we are building this network we need to make sure that it’s not always one sided. You don’t only want to be going to them asking for help but you want to make sure that they know that they can come to you to ask for help as well. While I am the host of this podcast and if we have never chatted before I want you to know that I am also here for help. You can visit my website at the Kim site in dot com and go to the contact page and send me a message if you’d need assistance on anything. I may be the person behind the microphone. But the whole purpose behind the positive productivity is to help you achieve and appreciate personal and professional success. So please if there’s anything that I can help you with, again just visit my website at “thekimsutton” dot com and give me a shout out. With that said go forth and have a positive and productive day.