It Will Happen When It’s Supposed to Happen
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QUICK NOTES – IT WILL HAPPEN WHEN IT’S SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN:
Do you put unnecessary pressure on yourself and cause undue stress due to setting unrealistic deadlines?
Please note I said “unrealistic” deadlines.
For years, I was a “Yes” ma’am. Whenever anyone asked me to do something, I said “yes” and gave them delivery dates I had no chance of making.
I wanted everyone to be happy, but in the end, my unrealistic deadlines/delivery dates made a whole lot of people unhappy, including me.
The result was that I spent all my time working on everyone else’s business, and, on the rare occasion I did have time to work on my business, I was exhausted, and my soul wasn’t in it.
Deadlines are important. Realistic deadlines are more important.
It’s crucial to always be taking action in our business, but we need to remember that it will happen when it’s supposed to happen.
What will happen?
You will work with the difficult client who makes you want to tear your hear out at the point when you NEED to learn the painful lessons.
You will have live-changing conversations at the time they will make the biggest impact on your life.
And, you will create the content you are supposed to create at the time you are supposed to create it.
Stop pressuring yourself to get stuff done by by throwing a dart at the calendar on the wall and seeing where it will land.
It will happen when it’s supposed to happen.
By releasing the stress belt on your calendar and allowing yourself time to breathe and reflect, you will allow your work — and your life — to flow in ways which feel good to you.
Am I saying you should stop everything and wait for a magical sign?
But watch this video to learn about my experiences, and how I have seen, in my business, that it will happen when it’s supposed to happen.
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I want you to think about
goals and achievements that you push for over the course of your career over the course of your life.
And when you didn’t reach them
at the at the deadline or the goal point at the calendar date that you told yourself, you were going to reach them by.
How did you feel?
Well, back in 2000, he let me try that again back in 2016. I, I was pushing all the time. 2015 2016 I always had unrealistic expectations of myself.
I thought I could create courses in a week.
Wrong. At that point. I had one year old twins, even though my husband was around and even though we had a nanny for a short while, there was no way that in a course of a week I was going to create a whole course that was a little bit redundant, but I think you get my point. I wanted to My book I actually had, it wasn’t just one course that I was working on. This is hilarious. I called it the social media intensive, because I saw that all over the internet. All these big gurus were supposedly making millions of dollars by teaching other people how to use social media platforms. Well guess what I didn’t know how to do. I didn’t know how to use Facebook like I should have. I was using Twitter but in a way that I would never teach today. I barely knew LinkedIn. I was barely active on Pinterest. I’m just going through what was around back then. periscope was just taking off. I knew how to go live. I didn’t know much more than that.
Was Instagram around.
I have to check that out. I have no idea of Instagram was around.
But if it were round, then I was going to have a whole huge segment on that one too. And I was pushing so hard to get all these modules completed so hard. I remember sitting here at my desk one day, recording a module on something to do with Facebook pages and breaking down in tears. Because I had another blooper. I thought that I needed to do it all perfect and that I needed to get through a whole take
without a single
I’ll tell you that to this day. I can’t get through a live without a blooper. I can’t get through a podcast episode without a blooper and I have learned to embrace bloopers rather than despise them. I understand that they are me. I mean, I almost came onto this video with a piece of toilet paper stuck to my shirt. In full transparency. We use toilet paper in our house instead of tissues because the kids don’t empty the boxes out. They leave the toilet paper rolls alone. But, and I know this is off on a tangent, but I’ll get back to it just a second. I do have a cat, who will flick the toilet paper rolls off my desk and then shred them all over the floor. Okay, back to what I was saying though. So the the week
that I finished
recording the Facebook portion, or one of the Facebook portions I can’t even remember now that was 2015. Facebook did a major update. Everything that I had shown on the screen shares went poof, because the Facebook business pages no longer look the same. And I remember sitting here and I’m going to sit back for a second, staring at the ceiling and just shaking my head. I probably had tears running down my face because I had just gone through all that work. And my husband said to me, is this really what you want to be working on? I said, What do you mean? It’s gonna make us money? And he says, Yeah, I understand that. It’s gonna make us Money, but you sound bored as all heck. Now Facebook was the first module I had recorded thank goodness
in when I
took a moment to consider what he was saying I realized he was right. Why would I want to put something out to the public? That sounded like I was bored as all heck. Oh, I know why I’d want to do it then. I wanted to do everything in 2015 for money 2012 to 2000, mid 2016 was all about money. I will touch upon what happened on a different day different video.
So I stopped creating that.
What I’ve learned since then, is that everything happens when it’s supposed to happen. Whatever you are working on whatever you’re working toward right now, will happen when it is supposed to happen. Just this morning I finally finished building out my own sales page for my new course for my new program feel good funnels. And
I must admit that I was a little bit resentful over the weekend number one because I really wanted to be playing. I’m a gamer if you haven’t heard that before, my whole family is gamers. I really wanted to be playing with my family. And it wasn’t. But on the flip side, I was resentful at myself because I hadn’t built the page before. I was kicking my heart, because I knew that if I had created this page before, if I had built a program before, then we could have already been generating income off of it. It was another one of those experiences though, where I had to well first I had to get some sleep because I was exhausted. I kept on. I was working on this page all weekend. I kept on passing out on my bed early and then wait Getting up early, early the next morning, I was up at four o’clock this morning because the same thing happened last night.
But it was after getting some sleep that I realized
it will happen when it’s supposed to happen.
This page was designed these programs were designed when they were supposed to happen. I didn’t even have a name for these programs before 2000 end of 2018. And when the name hit me, and when I ran it past a friend and she said, yeah, that’s awesome. At that point, I did buy the domain, but I didn’t have the bandwidth to create the programs.
I just realized I have two rolls of toilet paper on my desk.
And I didn’t have the bandwidth to create the programs. I was already overworked. I wasn’t validating myself. I didn’t have the confidence to say no to people. I was saying yes, left and right. I was already giving up my nights and weekends. It will happen when I supposed to happen at this present moment in my business. I love who I’m working with. I love knowing that I can say no.
Or that I can extend
for how long I believe a project will take. Whereas Kim of a year ago two years ago would always say yes immediately and I’ll have it for you tomorrow. Kim have a year ago or two years ago, three years ago would have already had 48 hours of work booked for tomorrow. Me the Kim of today. I grammar police you can come in and comment if you want to. I won’t say I can do it for tomorrow. I multiply it all my work estimates by four. I am tired of over promising and under delivering under delivering I’m ready to I don’t want to say under promise Be realistic in over deliver it will happen when it’s supposed to happen if you are suffering from yes syndrome you might be a yes ma’am or Yes sir. Stop you know what nobody expects you to say yes all the time except for yourself. And number one people won’t hate you. If you say no. And number two, the probably respect you even more. Your life does not revolve around other people. Or it shouldn’t. My life used to,
but I wasn’t making time for sleep. I wasn’t making time for my family.
I was overburden with building everybody else’s businesses instead of my own. This sales page that I finished building this morning, is the first sales page that I built for my own business since 2016. I Haven’t had the bandwidth set to send because I was too busy saying yes to everybody else. I was trying to think of other examples of how it will happen when it’s supposed to happen. And I know there’s a whole ton of those types of examples in my life. But I know you can think of them as well. I know, oh, I couldn’t think of one right now. I’m, I’m working. I’m working my way through writing my book. Finally, if you haven’t already heard of it, it’s kind of idea disorder, the entrepreneurs guide to overcoming idea overwhelm. I’ve been pushing myself hard for five years to write this book. But it wasn’t until last fall earlier this year, that I felt comfortable writing it in my voice. I thought I had to write my book, to to meet the expectations of others. I didn’t think about how I could write it in my voice and be entertaining, educating and then Lightning. If I don’t put my voice into my book, I might as well go hire a ghostwriter. But until this year, I didn’t have the confidence to do so. It will happen when it’s supposed to happen. Take those unrealistic deadlines and time expectations off of everything on your to do list and allow yourself to be free. Allow yourself to really immerse your, your heart and your soul into your work. And it will happen when it’s supposed to happen, how it’s supposed to happen. I would love to hear your feedback on this video, so make sure to leave a comment down below. And at some point in the future, I will have a free gift for you as well. Not today though. I’m Kim Sutton, host of the positive productivity podcast in a business and marketing automation mentor, whose goal is to help entrepreneurs get out of overwhelm. If you’ve enjoyed this video again, I am invite you to please leave a comment down below like the video and share it with anybody who would like it. And make sure that you like my page, subscribe to the page and be notified when I when I post future content. Now until Wednesday when I come back for work smarter, not harder Wednesdays, I hope you go forth and make it a positive and a productive day.